Archive for the ‘Vices’ Category

Questions: An Alternative to Thought?

Tuesday, June 8th, 2010

Tempers run short at the end of the year.  I should know not to take on another project on top of exams, organizational tasks and the odd letter from parents pleading with me to give their wayward daughter another shot at passing my course.

But I really thought that e-mailing a group of teachers about a new product opportunity, designed by one of my good friends, would be simple.  Take orders.  Collect money.  Write one big check.  Feel good about helping my friend and giving the manufacturer some business.  Easy, right?

Wrong.  In 24 hours since the original offer, I have gotten e-mails from almost a dozen teachers who obviously didn’t read it.  They want to know what size they should get.  (There are two sizes.  How in the world should I know which would work better for you?)  Where should they send the check?  How long do they have to decide?  What kind of material is it?  And how does Paypal work?  ALL questions I already answered, except the last one, which is utterly ridiculous.  Why not just ask me how the Internet works?

After a year of answering questions like this (What page did you say we were on?  When is this due?  Do we have to write in complete sentences?) I have had it up to here with people who don’t listen, don’t problem-solve on their own, and expect me to do both for them.  My patience and compassion reserves are drained.  I have chosen to not respond to these messages at all, rather than to unleash the torrent of my wrath that would surely follow.

On days like this I love to read Dr. Grumpy’s rants. His stories always make mine look downright reasonable.

Why Did I Get Married?

Saturday, June 5th, 2010

Reason Number 1,487: to expand my horizons.

For instance, we’re going to see these guys live tomorrow night:

And yes, we paid money for the tickets.  Actual American currency.

E-mail me if you want to know where to send the sympathy card.

UPDATE: For all my whining, I have to admit it was a fun concert, if a little short.  Beautiful weather at Pier Six and fun, funky, soulful jams.

Gmail: Saving Me From Myself

Sunday, May 30th, 2010

I just wrote an e-mail to a new client and mentioned I was attaching something.  When I hit “send,” a dialog popped up:

“You wrote ‘Attached is’ in your message, but no files are attached.  Send anyway?”

Translation: “Hey, moron, try to get with the program!  Do you want this guy’s business or not?!”

Gmail, I love you.  More than is probably healthy.

The Best of the Times, the Worst of the Times

Friday, May 28th, 2010

You have NO idea how long I’ve been wanting to use that post title!

Two recent Times articles that have to do with parenting, education and food, but come from vastly different worldviews:

On the Best side is this excellent treatise involving a restauranteur who believes that “Children’s menus are the death of civilization.”  Hear, hear!   Based on my experience and observation, kids will eat what they’re expected to eat.  When there are no expectations, you can hardly blame them for eating only macaroni and cheese.  It’s somewhat endearing at four, but downright embarrassing at fourteen; I’ve heard more than one high school girl unabashedly admit that she doesn’t eat vegetables.  At all.  I’m so grateful to my parents for forcing, bribing and tricking me into eating all sorts of weird things — from pork rinds to artichokes and snails and tandoori — those experiences gave me the courage to discover new passions on my own.

In the Worst corner is this article that appears to be making a serious case for labeling foods as choking hazards.  They’re actually printing quotes like this:

“You have a SuperBall that by government regulation has to carry warnings telling people it’s a risk to young children and you can’t market it to them, yet you can have the same identical shape and size gumball and there are no restrictions or requirements.”

Well, maybe that’s because gumballs were INTENDED to be put in your mouth.  And because it’s generally expected that parents will use common sense in feeding and supervising their children.  Truly, can we say that it’s necessary to affix a warning label to a carrot?  People, it’s called common sense and supervision.  And while I can’t imagine the horror that parents who have lost a child to choking have experienced, the reality is that accidents happen, even shocking and fatal ones.  Heaping up onerous legislation can’t stop them from occurring.  We need to make peace with the unpredictability and fragility of life.

If Thine Eye Offendeth Thee

Wednesday, May 19th, 2010

The list of specialists I visit regularly seems to be increasing exponentially as I approach my 30th birthday.  Yesterday, for no apparent reason, my eyes started itching furiously and swelled up, almost shut; I seemed to be perpetually squinting, or maybe winking. It would have been a lot funnier if I hadn’t been in the middle of lessons.

The first student was too absorbed in his work to notice, and the second was a family friend who generously refrained from staring, but my last student of the night was a sweet, inquisitive four-year-old who simply couldn’t concentrate until, as Carole Bigler would say, he had cleared his mind by speaking it.  I apologized to both parent and student for the ice pack I was holding over my face and explained that I was having some sort of allergic reaction.  His mom gallantly claimed she hadn’t noticed.  Her son, however, had. “WHAT HAPPENED TO YOUR EYES?”

I don’t know, honey.  But don’t worry.  I’m all right.  Can you play Mississippi Hot Dog for me?

This seemed to satisfy him, and he played it beautifully.  On the last note, he looked up at me.  “ONE OF THEM IS BIGGER THAN THE OTHER ONE!”

Yes, this was true, I agreed.  And how about Ice Cream Cone?  Can you play it with your left hand?

He complied, but this time got only a few bars in before whirling back around: “IT’S RED!”

His mom and I laughed, and I told her one of the best benefits of teaching: it keeps you humble.  At no point can you pretend you are above it all when there are people around you who remind you constantly of your ordinary-ness.

This reaction has happened half a dozen times in as many months, and I haven’t been able to narrow it down to one factor or another.  First I thought it might be an evergreen allergy, as it was near Christmas; then I suspected calamari, which I had eaten twice before having the reaction; but this time I had had a lunch of whole-wheat pasta, and the near-constant drizzle of the last 48 hours has prevented me from going outside at all.

So, another call to another doctor, and another appointment.  It’s as if my body knows the warranty’s about to expire.